An article to be published by SA Coaching News
“Everyone has been made
for some particular work, and the desire for that work has been put in every
heart”- Rumi
Coaches have an important role to play as we move into 2021. It’s a good time to try and make sense of 2020 and where we stand now (and story can contribute to sense-making), to contemplate alternative possible futures and a preferred future (stories) and develop our individual story and images of the future: our vision. The topic of a personal vision - one that provides meaning and purpose, ensures that we know why we exist and therefore are not steered off course by every new wind that blows as we move forward, but instead are sure and resilient – seemed right for this edition of SA Coaching News.
But here’s the rub: we live at a time where existential psychiatrist Irvin Yalom’s four givens of life seem more present than ever: the scary aspects and developmental appeal of meaninglessness, freedom, death and alone-ness or isolation. Also, in these unprecedented times there seems to be little room for those who know a lot about a little, less room for those who know a little about a lot, and an increasing call for those who know lots about lots. Trouble is – even if we fit the last-mentioned category, then we don’t know a lot – far more than what we do know (or think we know)! Sure, the amount of data we can access is growing, as is information - albeit to a lesser extent. Even less available is practical knowledge and real understanding. And wisdom is in short supply. We just don’t know the unknown, the future.
So how to proceed?
As a starting point we need to see that
vision is vital
Alice asked:
“Would you tell me which way I ought to go from here?”
“That depends
a great deal on where you want to get to” said the cat.
“I don’t know
where” said Alice.
Then it
doesn’t matter which way you go” said the cat. (Carroll, L. 1977)
Without a
vision we are lost, lose direction and focus..
Leave blow
pipes (pea - shooters), paper balls, sponges in a conference room, during a tea
or lunch break. When the participants return, in the absence of any other
instruction, it will not be too long before these objects are thrown around, or
at other people - with increasing intensity and hilarity. No matter how senior the
participants.
After a
while, without saying a word, place a picture of a target on a wall and
immediately attention and energy is directed at it - in the form of the pea
shooters, the balls and sponges, of course!
As soon as a single, clear target is shown and seen, there is a firm,
definite focus.
Try to put
together a jigsaw puzzle without looking at the picture (the end result that
you are trying to achieve). Difficult. We need to picture where we are going. Frankl
draws on his Oswieciem (Auschwitz) concentration camp experiences during the
2nd world war to explain that people need meaning and a future to hang on to (especially
when the going is tough): "Any attempt to restore a man's inner strength in the camp
had first to succeed in showing him some future goal”. (Frankll, V. 1985)
Ex World
heavyweight boxing champion Muhammad Ali put it this way (The second line of
his couplet is seldom quoted and speaks of the veracity of vision):
“Float like a
butterfly, sting like a bee
Your hands
can’t hit what your eyes can’t see”
Recognise that true vision for many follows hearing the ‘Divine’ (however you understand or experience this)
Studdert Kennedy was an army chaplain and poet who bucked the incompetent bureaucracy that resulted in so many First World War casualties and wasted lives.
He refused to give safe, cosy, sermons
behind the lines, and heard a call and chose instead to spend his time with the
soldiers, in horrific conditions in the trenches. Not preaching, but being with
them, coming alongside in their time of need.
He’d often hand out a Woodbine cigarette
and became known to the soldiers as Woodbine Willy. Years later when he died,
his simple funeral was attended by thousands and a single packet of Woodbines
was placed on top of his coffin.
Kennedy gave the precious gift of being present for the other person and listening with unconditional, positive regard in their time of confusion, fear, and existential loneliness. (Target, G. 1987)
Mother (Saint) Teresa heard a still, small voice within speak gently to her in a dream on a train ride, and her vision from that day forward was to serve the poorest of the poor. This led to her setting up the Missionaries of Charity in Calcutta. As Rumi puts it, she heard from “the one who talks to the deep ear in your chest”.
“When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all your thoughts break their bonds; your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new, great and wonderful world. Dormant forces, faculties and talents become alive, and you discover yourself to be a greater person by far than you ever dreamed yourself to be”. (Rutte, M. 2006)
Vision gives purpose. Without it we face ennui. If we think our work and our life has no meaning, feel jaded, nothing new and exciting ever happens, we are dissatisfied, unfulfilled, aimless, listless... If our lives are swamped by burdens, responsibilities, chores that are mundane and routine, and we stay in the in the drone zone… then the dis-ease we’re suffering from is the absence of purpose.
Establishing our deep inner reason for existing is the most important work any of us can do
How can we hear better in order to see more clearly?
- Things that you may wish to weigh up: In this age of electronic interactions, it seems that our attention-spans and retention-spans are reducing. Perhaps we can become more open to listening and hearing by spending more time in nature, more time in reflective mode. At such times listening blockages within are more likely to reveal themselves so that we can bypass or remove them: they may be hurts, resentments, blind spots, self-defeating attitudes, limiting beliefs and unconscious biases.
- Avoid being too cerebral and analytical. Allow for and explore the possibility of heart-knowing. “Research in the new discipline of neuro-cardiology shows that we have a “heart brain” with a vast array of neurons that are processing sensory information on their own and communicating that information to our brain, nervous system and other organ systems. This means the heart is able to learn, remember, and make decisions independent of the brain”. (Tafler, A. 2019) Physicist and philosopher David Bohm’s notion of a deep, invisible “implicate” order (which we will never fully comprehend and understand) and which lies below and beyond our observed “explicate” reality, makes sense to me. (Horgan, J. 2018) We can learn from the vision quest rite of passage practice, associated rituals and “crying for a vision” ceremonies that is a part of Native American Indian culture – and learn to hear from a wider reality than that which is confined to our conscious awareness.
- Be patient. Having a clear vision – purpose - calling is as much about being as it is about doing. If you haven't yet figured it out, don't become frenetic and anxious. There is no quick fix: “The supreme achievement of the self is to find an insight that connects together the events, dreams, and relationships that make up our existence". (Baillas, L. 1986) We are spoken to at different times in our lives, and in many different ways. (And if we hear we will see):
A man questions three workers at a building site. “What are you doing?”
Good luck as you reflect, listen, hear... and see... and move into 2021.
Bibliography
Baillas, Leonard J. (1986) Myths, Gods, Heroes, and Saviors Twenty-Third Publications
Carroll, Lewis (Rev. Charles Dodgson) (1977) Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland MacMillan
Frankl, Viktor E. (1985) Man’s Search for Meaning Basic Books NY
Horgan, John (2018) David Bohm, Quantum Mechanics and Enlightenment Scientific American. Crosscheck https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/cross-check/david-bohm-quantum-mechanics-and-enlightenment/
Luna, Ella (2015) The Crossroads of Should and Must: Find and Follow Your Passion Workman Publishing Co. Inc. NY
Paulus, Trina (1972) Hope for the Flowers, A Newman Book, Paulist Press, NY
Rutte, Martin (2006) The Work of Humanity: project heaven on earth citing Patanjali (in Seeking the Sacred: leading a spiritual life in a secular world. (ed Mary Joseph) ECW Press, Toronto, Canada
Tafler, Afshan (2019) How Your Heart May Be Your Wisest Brain June 27, 2019
https://unyte.com/blogs/news/how-your-heart-may-be-your-wisest-brain
Target, George (1987) Words that have Moved the World Bishopsgate Press, London
Tillich, Paul (2000) The Courage to Be, Yale University Press, New Haven
Zohar, Danah & Marshall, Ian (2004) Spiritual Capital Bloomsbury
Illustrations
Flooded Communication Trench In the Public Domain
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